From Breakups to Boyfriends

From Breakups to Boyfriends …

The Tools You Need to Find Love that Lasts 

Relationships can be sooo hard. Does this sound like you?

  • keep dating the same guys over and over again.  I am sick of chasing guys who decide after a couple weeks that they aren’t in to me. I want to find a lasting relationship with a good man.
  • When I date guys I find myself doing things like constantly checking his FaceBook. feel anxious almost all the time, and find it hard to think about anything but him and what he is doing.
  • I am in a relationship that is really hard. We fight a lot and I don’t trust him, but I do love him so much.  It’s even to the point where I am embarrassed  by our relationship and the ups and downs we keep having.
  • I’ve been single for what seems like forever and I am so ready to have a boyfriend. I want marriage and babies, but I am not sure itwill ever happen for me.

Or perhaps…

  • I’m about to lose a good guy. But sometimes the things he does, down to the smallest habit, drive me insane! Sometimes I am so mean to him I don’t even recognize myself, nor do I like who I am with him. It’s becoming a pretty big problem in our relationship.

Lets be real most people suck at relationships. We have no idea what we are doing.  While relationships can be the hardest part of a woman’s life,  they are also the part that many of us desire the most.

Still we try and try to make it work with what we were taught and what we think we know.

Relationships are not easy. Yet for sooo many of us they become a form ofsuffering and unhappiness, for you, the one you’re with and often those around you.

As a relationship ‘sufferer’ in recovery I am here to share with you the tools and resources every women needs in order to Find a Good Man or Keep the One She Has and Create an Incredible Love that Lasts.

Cultivating the relationship waters is easier then you think and trust me (as a former dating drama disaster) it can be enjoyable.

Because waiting until the right man comes along in order to feel the

Happiness, Confidence and Love that you desire is a lose lose game.

It puts wayyyy too much pressure on your self, your man and the relationship.

So whether you are single, dating or in a serious and committed relationship I am here to share with you some of the most amazing ways to cultivate more love in your life right now

So if you have tried everything else (therapists, books, switching jobs, new cities and new boyfriends) then I promise you, your journey does not end here, it begins ….

There is a better way to happiness and love, here’s how

You’re Totally in Denial

You’re Totally in Denial

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Did you know that there are 2 types of denial? And chances are you are in one form or the other, most of the time.

One form of denial can help your mentality, energy and the overall state of your life.
The other form has a tendency to keep people feeling stifled, stuck and often frantic.

Only you can know for sure the level and type of denial you are dealing with at any given time.  For a high quality life it’s important to have awareness of both so you can easily shift from drowning in denial to using it as a tool to keep you afloat in this crazy world.

Check out the video below for more details and information so that you can decipher how denial can hurt or help you, depending on how you use it.

How to Make Motivation Last to Accomplish Your Dreams

How to Make Motivation Last to Accomplish Your Dreams

When was the last time you felt motivated to start something, anything, and followed it all the way through to completion?

Be it a weight loss goal, new exercise regime or food plan? Or perhaps you want to write more, keep your room clean or get your taxes done.

If your like me (and almost every other person on the planet) then you know that staying motivated to accomplish any goal, no matter how big or small can feel like one of the most daunting tasks there is.

A jolt of motivation usually gets us moving, but with life circumstances and daily distractions, not to mention our emotions and thoughts, staying consistently motivated can be really hard!

That is why we need motivation like this … (see video below)

And inspiration and wisdom from authors and motivational speakers like this … (see video below)

Because they understand that goal accomplishment is not easy, but they also know and have shown us it CAN be done.

So rather than allowing yourself to ‘do it tomorrow‘ or ‘try again another time,’ defy the odds, take a stand for yourself, your life and your dreams with this SUPER simple yet profound concept and action plan.

Because you and I both deserve to do what we desire and to see it all the way through

Are You Tired of Makings the Same Mistakes?

Are You Tired of Makings the Same Mistakes?

How over making [ the same] mistakes are you?! The set backs, the clean ups, the apologies you need to make to others or to yourself for yet again, doing what you said you would no longer do.

If you’re over making [ the same] mistakes and you know it click below

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If you’re over making mistakes and you know it click below

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If you’re over your mistakes and you know, and you really want to show it,

If your over making mistakes click below :)

Still Heartbroken

Still Heartbroken

The number of days since the Connecticut shooting and the number of days till you will read this is irrelevant. They are irrelevant because no matter how much time has passed I hope that we never forget December 14, 2012.

Tragedies happen every day, all over the world. Yet for some reason, that I cannot put into words, there are some tragedies that seem ‘different.’ The Sandy Hook shooting is one of them.

Perhaps for me it is because Connecticut is my home state, perhaps because I am among other situations pulling at my heart. Perhaps it is the time of year. Or perhaps it is a combination of all violent happenings in this world that went raging through the hands of a 20-year-old man in one small school, in one small town.

Admittingly I do not watch the news, or read that paper often. Like many woman my age I regrettably get a small speck of what is happening in the world. Yet in this tragedy I have not been able to turn away, unable to dry my eyes.

I am in all honestly shocked by the impact this shooting has had on my heart. I do not yet have children of my own. It is inconceivable to me how a parent may feel at this time, especially those of young ones, I pray that no one ever know the grief of those who have lost a child on that Friday.

As I cry and grieve, there is part of me that wants to stay in this place, for perhaps a while longer and there is a will inside of me to never forget. Not just the memory but also the pain of what one insane and violent act can do to a nation and to the world.

Humbled in my own life by what I have seen, I feel compelled to look at moments where I lived with anger in my words and raging hurt in my heart; I cannot help but wonder how in some small way I may, we all may contribute to the insanity of this world.

Every unkind word, every time selfish choice, every thought that just went ‘too far;’ for all of those mentioned I am guilty.

I am not going to use Friday or any other act of loveless ness in the world to feel guilty over not being the ‘better’ person I know I can be. I am not suggesting that anyone fall into thought forms of guilt.

However what I will do is, I will not turn away from the pain this incident has caused. I will sit with my broken heart and ask myself ‘where, where can I give more love, to the world, to others and to myself.’ Where can I put just a little more effort into life? And when will I start to take every moment I have on this earth a little bit more seriously and a lot more gratefully.

It’s not that we all don’t try, but clearly this is not the best we can do. In our hearts we all sense a connection, a grief that we may not have otherwise before. We must pay very close attention to this pain and all our pain; we must ask it what it needs us to know about this tragedy and about our lives. And from that answer we must take action. And from that action, we will all begin to rise up, see a better and a new world. One where not only do events like Sandy Hook never happen, but where there is no room for a heart to ever break at this magnitude, ever again.